slutkittenn asked - "My Master and I have been together for almost two years, but He has owned me for maybe a year or so. We are both sort of closeted with our lifestyle, except some of our closer friends suspect a little bit. He and I would just love to be open. Are you two open with friends or family about how you, Sir, own your kitten? If you are how did you tell them or how did it come up? Also, what you do here is so great. Thank you so much for this blog, it's great. Respectfully, emily."

Both I and my kitten are semi open with our lifestyle; only our close personal friends know of it, and even then this group of people would only number about 10 people. My kittens parents have somewhat of an inkling, I however am not on particularly good speaking terms with my family so I tend to avoid serious topics such as this when I am lucky enough to have a conversation with them.

As for telling people, Our friends and kittens family essentially just put the pieces together. When they approached us about it, they had a surprisingly educated and insightful opinion on it; they had picked up on things that no purely vanilla person would have (D-clips left on bed frames, a collar and lead next to the door when we have no dog, etc). people with no inclination towards an alternative sexual lifestyle would have just dismissed these objects. So, in our case, we never really had the intention of telling our friends and family, but they where intuitive enough to figure it out themselves. 

If you want to tell your friends and family however, it is always best for the submissive in the relationship to explain it. This way whoever your explaining it to doesn’t get the wrong idea of the Dominants role, and assume the worst about your relationship (whatever the dynamic may be; this has happened to myself previously). Also, it helps to keep an ear out for any inclination that they themselves may be into some kind of alternative lifestyle; this helps people understand the BDSM relationships better, as they themselves may go against the social norm in some way or another. 

Parents however require the utmost tact and grace when telling them about your lifestyle. It is best to not give them all the details, sometimes even ever, as many parents will instinctively get protective of their daughter/son if they find out that they are in the submissive role, and begin to question their son/daughters mental stability if they are in the Dominant. My personal suggestion is that if it is not of the utmost important that they know, then it would best to leave it as is. However if they must know for some personal reasons, then again hearing it from the submissive would be the best point to approach from. Avoid talking about physical discipline, as many people still see it as physical abuse; try talking about the somewhat “lighter” side, I.e roleplaying and collaring. After they have come to accept it, then you can give a name to your relationship dynamic, Expect them to go away and look it up though. Obviously some relationships will be harder to divulge to your parents than others, and in some cases may even have to accompany coming out to your parents; this is an entirely different problem and therefore requires an entirely different approach.

Lastly, thankyou so much for your kind words, both I and my kitten greatly appreciate them. 

Have Fun

Sincerely Sir