Anonymous asked - "I'm having problems trying to explain to my Sir what I want. Pictures aren't really helping because he doesn't understand fully what I mean when he looks at the image. I've tried telling him my fantasy but it almost comes off as he doesn't care, or it feels like his trying to hard so it doesn't feel natural. It's starting to make me really depressed. I don't know what to do."

As sad as it may be, some people are just not interested in the scene or lifestyle on the same level as their partners. This is an all too common problem, and can sometimes be solved with some simple conversation between the two people in the relationship. Whilst it seems that your partner is somewhat uninterested in your fantasies, maybe try asking him what it is they want. As the submissive (I am making the assumption due to your calling of your partner “Sir”) it is your part to make your Dominant as happy as possible. In time, your Sir may find that he is willing to try to indulge your fantasies, and if you have pleased him previously, he will be far more inclined to do so. 

But most of all, you should make an effort to talk to your Dominant about how you feel when he just brushes off what you want; whilst being a submissive does mean that your own gratification will often come second to that of your Dominant, it does not entitle your partner to be so off handed and careless with his submissive. Hopefully I have been able to help with your problem; if not, then perhaps talk to your partner about whether or not he truly wants a BDSM relationship.

Have Fun

Sincerely Sir