My Sub and I are into extreme hardcore D/s and are looking for other couples opinions on the sadistic and violent nature of the intercourse. Your thoughts and suggestions are greatly appreciated, as we follow your tumblr religiously.
We have taken some time to answer this question as we feel that it is a very sensitive topic with many people.
Violence, and it’s place in sexual intercourse in the D/s and to an extent, all fetish lifestyles, is an act of indisputable importance; It has to be treated with the utmost caution, and used only in context of the relationship. Consensual Violence in sexual intercourse is common place in todays society, with many people coming to grips with their more innate urges at a younger age. In doing this, people are given more time to develop sexually. A persons first sexual partner may find that they enjoy some like smacking during the physical act of sex, but this will soon develop past the point of “light” play. This is where people have to make the decision of whether they wish to continue to explore the sadistic nature of consensual violence in the bedroom, and what role it plays in their life.
Many people identify themselves as a sadist, a person taking joy out of watching/or making people suffer physically. It is very important that, if you have found yourself to have fit this description, you take the time to research the correct way to go about introducing your urges into whatever sexual lifestyle/relationship you may have. I myself identify as a sadist; I take enormous sexual joy out of causing my kitten physical discomfort. People will frequently look at this relationship and scream abuse; these people do not take into account that she wants it to.
A person who is a sadist in nature will instinctively fall for a person of masochistic tendencies; one that can indulge their prefered method of sexual intercourse. This makes the overall D/s relationship (particularly the sadomasochistic side) flow far more smoothly.
There a few rules to remember when introducing sadistic play into the bedroom, and these are not to be taken lightly. First of all, both parties involved in the act have to be consensual. Both people must fully know what they are about to participate in, and activities that are taken place during the session have been planned about and spoken before hand IN FULL DETAIL.
As long as the sadomasochism that takes place during the D/s session/scene is carefully thought out, and as always consensual (I CAN NOT STRESS THIS ENOUGH) then I see no problem with violence (within each persons own limits) being included in sexual intercourse. I, and my kitten, find that it is always an enjoyable experience, for both the person giving, and the person receiving the sadomasochistic activities, and that it will always play a role in our sexual lifestyle.
Any questions or requirements or clarification, from any of our followers, do not hesitate to ask.
(NOTE: All of the above writing it written from experience with a willing partner, and all of our activities our within the laws and regulations of Australia, to the best of our knowing)
Just to tell... I personally prefer the ancient theme because I could actually know which page I was looking at. Since I have discovered your great blog recently, it was practical to know where I had stopped last time. Cheers
There is an option on our current (new) theme that allows us to turn the endless scrolling off. We have enabled this, and hope that it works out for everyone who may have been having the same problem. The next page button can be found in the group of links at the bottom of the side bar.
I and my kitten have recently stumbled across this BDSM supplier, Whole-sale BDSM. They have a rather large amount of product at an incredibly low price. Has any of our followers had an experience with this website, or has anyone heard any ill words about it? It seems almost too good to be true.
Great site. Awesome photos. Where are your archive pages?
Thankyou very much, as always we both appreciate your kind words.
The theme that I and my kitten have chosen does not support an archive button; we have received a few requests to fix/change/alter our theme, and we will try to get around to it in the not too distant future. Check back soon, as chances are it will be changed within the day.
What the best type of rope to buy (from a hardware store) for sessions? Most I see don't seem like they'd be comfortable to be bound in..
Rope that you buy from hardware and camping/hiking stores will always have to be cured before use. I and my kitten don’t much use rope in our sessions, as we both prefer leather, so neither of us know the exact process nor how long this takes; But from what I have seen it takes quite a while and quite a few times to get right. You will easily be able to find a guide online to do it however, but it’s validity may come into question.
My best suggestion is, if money is no object, simply find some cheap rope on the internet or in adult stores that is designed to be used to bind a person. A great many adult stores have them in varying lengths and colour, and you are able to bulk buy them off the internet if you so wish. By buying ones that have been designed for this kind of use, you are eliminating the risk factor of curing it incorrectly and are able to use the rope to it’s full potential.
If any of our followers know how to correctly cure rope for BDSM play, please submit a detailed step by step guide or link to a website containing it.
can you suggest the best sites to purchase your first "materials"? we are trying to get started and all of the normal sex toy websites don't seem to have the good stuff.
It depends on what you define as “the good stuff”. If you are a couple that is just beginning in BDSM, then I suggest that you don’t go all out with your toys and materials. A simple set of strong durable cuffs, a collar, light whip and assorted rope/d-clips/chains would be more than enough for the starting couple.
As for where to buy them, then for a quick solution I and my kitten both suggest eBay. Many people say that you should never buy any BDSM toys off of it, as the items are generally poor quality; however if you look around and make enquiries you will find that you are generally able to purchase some of the more simplistic items at a fraction of the price that a fetish site would be selling them. I and my kitten picked up a pair of leather cuffs when we were first starting out in the scene, and they are still a core item in our sessions today.
Also, look at hardware stores for some of the more heavy duty items such as D-clips and Hiking clips, ropes and chains. The can be bought most of the time in bulk, which is quite handy for the more intricate scenes. Also, you can buy wooden dowel (heavy duty) that can be repurposed as spreader bars of varying lengths.
When buying materials for your scenes, it comes down to wants and needs. Everyone in the BDSM lifestyle has a huge list of wants, but it can almost always be cut down to a quarter of the size buying picking only what you need. Then from there it is a matter of studiously researching to find the best price for the best item, and your set.
I'm so glad you're posting again :) Missed this blog on my dash like you would not believe.
Thankyou for the appreciation, We are sorry that we haven’t been posting recently but we have been very busy with my kitten starting a new schooling year and recent married life, but we will make sure to get back into the norm.